Have you ever seen a baby try and walk? Babies who are trying to walk, try to do it over many weeks and months. They make a small effort, usually fail and then try again. It is only after many efforts that they eventually master the skill.
What does that have to do with confidence?
It seems to me that even though we see all around us, that anyone that developed a difficult skill took a long time to do it, we somehow kid ourselves into thinking that we can achieve a new skill overnight. We expect to learn a language in a few hours even though you took months and years to learn your own language. Part of it is advertising that promises quick results. Part of it is we have become a society obsessed with speed. But the fact is, you can't make big changes overnight. Sorry, but it's just not possible.
So when I see people who expect to be transformed overnight from un-confident to confident, I have to give them a dose of reality. It ain't gonna happen! If you are serious about developing your confidence, you are going to have to accept the reality. It won't happen immediately. You have to be patient. You have to apply yourself every day and have a firm plan for action. If you don't do this, you will never succeed.
Remember, patience is the key. As they say, a desire for instant results can be the cause of a lifetime of failure. Don't expect results too soon. If you are getting a little better every day, not only are you guaranteed to get there in the end, but the skills you develop will be much more stable and secure. You will have earned the achievement.
Resolve today to apply yourself every day to becoming confident. It's only with a commitment to day by day improvement that you will get to your goal of being an impressive socially confident individual.
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